Option A
This.
Coffee · Morning · Practical
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Option B
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That.
Tea · Night owl · Indulgent
8 questions that tell your Santa everything.

No wishlist required. One click per answer. See how your whole group splits — and give gifts people actually want.

What it is

Why This or That works so well for gift exchanges

Traditional wishlists put pressure on people to know exactly what they want. This or That removes that pressure entirely — 8 quick binary picks reveal personality, taste, and lifestyle in under a minute. Your Santa knows whether to get you a cosy book and candle or tickets to a rock concert. No guessing.

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Takes 30 seconds

8 questions, one click each. The fastest survey your group has ever filled in — which means they actually fill it in.

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Group stats for the organiser

See how the whole group splits. 68% Coffee people. 70% Adventure lovers. Useful for planning, and genuinely fun.

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Private by default

Each Santa only sees their person's answers. Group stats shown to the organiser are fully anonymous.

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Part of the full gift survey

These questions pair with sizes, wishlist links, and favourite stores in the free digital Gift Survey.

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The 8 questions

Click to pick your preference — see simulated group stats appear.

0 of 8 answered
All questions

8 picks. Endless insight.

Each pair is chosen to reveal a different dimension of someone's taste. Together they paint a surprisingly accurate picture of what kind of gift will land — without the awkwardness of a wishlist.

Coffee vs Tea — reveals comfort preferences and morning ritual culture
Experiences vs Things — the most revealing question of all eight
Minimalist vs Maximalist — tells you whether to buy one quality item or a curated bundle
Practical vs Indulgent — the final filter between useful and luxurious
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Coffee ☕orTea 🍵
Experiences 🎭orThings 🎁
Sweet 🍫orSavoury 🧀
Home 🏠orAdventure 🌍
Morning 🌅orNight Owl 🦉
Books 📚orPodcasts 🎧
MinimalistorMaximalist
PracticalorIndulgent
Organiser view

See how your group splits

Once everyone submits their survey, you see anonymous group stats for every question. Fun conversation starter. Genuinely useful for planning the event.

Coffee ☕ Tea 🍵
68% coffee people in this group
Experiences 🎭 Things 🎁
55% prefer Things — stock up on gifts, not outings
Home 🏠 Adventure 🌍
70% adventure people — experience gifts will land
Minimalist Maximalist
62% maximalist — go for quantity and curation
What good gifting looks like
8

questions that replace the three most awkward conversations in any gift exchange: "What do you want?", "What size are you?", and "How much should I spend?"

The This or That section is included in the free digital Gift Survey at SecretSantaMatch.com. Share one link with your group — everyone fills it in alongside sizes, wishlist links, and budget hints.

Works for every group

Any exchange. Any occasion.

The questions are professional enough for an office party and personal enough for family. No awkward topics. No wrong answers.

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Office Secret Santa

Professional, non-intrusive, and quick. Perfect for colleagues who don't know each other well but still want to give a thoughtful gift.

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Family exchanges

Works for all ages. Get preferences from relatives you only see once a year without a long phone call or a guessing game.

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Friend groups

Friends think they know each other — This or That reveals surprisingly new things. Makes the reveal moment more fun too.

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Remote teams

Virtual Secret Santa for distributed teams. Share one link, collect answers asynchronously. No meeting required.

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Kris Kringle & Secret Pal

Works with any gift exchange format — standalone or as part of the full survey with sizes and wishlist links.

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Teachers & classrooms

Quick, appropriate, and fun for teacher gift drives, class exchanges, and student appreciation events.

questions & answers
Common questions

Questions About This or That

What is a This or That survey?
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A This or That survey presents pairs of options and asks participants to choose one. For gift exchanges, questions like Coffee vs Tea and Experiences vs Things reveal enough about a person's style and lifestyle to give a genuinely thoughtful gift — without needing a wishlist.
What are the best This or That questions for a gift exchange?
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The most useful questions reveal lifestyle and taste: Coffee or Tea, Experiences or Things, Sweet or Savory, Home or Adventure, Morning or Night Owl, Books or Podcasts, Minimalist or Maximalist, Practical or Indulgent. All 8 are already included in the free survey.
Can I see how the whole group answered?
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Yes. After your group submits their surveys, the organiser sees anonymous group stats for every This or That question — for example, 68% of your group are Coffee people. Individual answers stay private to each person's Santa.
Is This or That standalone or part of something bigger?
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Both. The This or That questions are part of the full free Gift Survey at SecretSantaMatch.com, which also covers clothing sizes, wishlist links, favourite stores, budget hints, and a fun icebreaker. You can also use them as a standalone quiz.
Is the survey anonymous?
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Your This or That answers are private to your assigned Santa only. Group stats visible to the organiser are fully anonymous — no names are attached to the percentages.
Is it free?
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Yes — completely free. No account, no email, no sign-up required for the organiser or any participant. The full Gift Survey including This or That is free at SecretSantaMatch.com.
Free · No sign-up · Takes 30 seconds per person

Add This or That
to your exchange.

Create a free Gift Survey, include the This or That section, share one link with your group. Everyone answers in 30 seconds. Your Santa knows exactly what to get.